7 Ways To Make Friends At Your New Duty Station
Have you just PCSed to a new duty station and are struggling to make friends? Well, don’t worry, you’re not alone. There are literally hundreds of military spouses out there just like you (for example, me!). I have been in the same exact position that you are in now, that’s why I have created this post on 7 ways to make friends at your new duty station.
Let’s be honest for a moment, our spouses have it a little easier than us when it comes to making new friends at a duty station. They’re the ones who instantly have a job lined up wherever we go next and get to interact with people almost immediately on a daily basis. That’s why I decided to create this post on 7 ways to make friends at your new duty station!
Trust me, I know how hard it can be to make friends. It took me literally months to make some friends of my own when Chad and I moved to Hawaii!
So, if you are a military spouse who is struggling to make some friends, read below for my tips on 7 ways to make friends at your new duty station!
Disclaimer: I don’t count myself an expert on friend making or anything like that, but I was able to make some good friendships by the following. I want to help other military spouses who are new to a duty station and may be struggling on forming some friendships. Remember, you are not alone!
Join The Facebook Groups
There’s a Facebook group for almost every duty station, no matter what the branch is (and if there isn’t, start one!). I joined two Facebook groups here in Hawaii and it’s a great place to either ask people to hang out or to simply ask questions about something you may not know or something you’re looking for opinions on.
Here are the links to a few Facebook Groups I joined:
There are also so many other military spouse Facebook groups for the different bases and/or different activities in the area, check out this post where I talk more about them: Best Facebook Groups to Join When PCSing to Hawaii . . . Just search something similar with your base and/or area you’re living in with what you’re looking for. I’m sure there is a Facebook group for it!
Go To The Coffee Socials
At least where we are currently stationed, there are coffee socials multiple times a week, every week! They are all kid friendly and open to everyone! On Oahu they are hosted by Martinsburg College.
I seriously wish I would have gone to the coffee socials sooner because they are so much fun! I have met a lot of awesome girls this way and for me, has been the biggest way I have made friends.
If your base doesn’t do coffee socials, start one! And you don’t have to drink coffee to go, so there are no excuses!
Put Yourself Out There
Literally right after our one year anniversary photo shoot ended with Chelsea I said to Chad, “I like her. I want to be her friend.” We had exchanged numbers/followed each other on Instagram and so one day Chelsea commented on one of my photos saying to let her know the next time I was going up to the North Shore. And so the next time I was venturing out to North Shore, I let her know! She is now one of my closest friends on the island.
Participate With The Events On Post
Is there a concert? Zumba? Sip & Paint Night? Cosmic bowling? Go! Go do those activities and make you some friends! This is your time to get out in the world and possibly make a new friend! A lot of the events on post are usually free anyway so what do you have to lose? Whenever I see or hear about an event on post that I am interested in I always make my husband go with me!
Hang Out With Other Couples
This is an obvious to me. Don’t get me wrong, I love Chad’s single friends – they’re great guys. But that’s the thing: they are guys. I can’t become good friends with his guy friends. I need some girl talk and everything else that comes with having a girl friend! We have one couple that we hang out with frequently and she is another one of my closest friends on the island!
Leave Your House
Do not sit inside your house all day (like I did . . .) and do nothing because you will definitely not meet anyone by doing that. Go to the park, mall, coffee shop, try some place new for lunch. Does your base have a rec center, library, indoor/outdoor pool? Putput? Go out into the world – you never know what will happen!
Get Involved With The Community
Whether that be with the FRG, volunteering around your area, joining a church, whatever getting involved means to you – you will definitely make some friends that way! You will be joining a community of people who have like-minded interests as you.
Get A Job
I have made a lot more friends by getting a job! This will get you out of the house, interacting with people, and making some money!
I temped with this one company on and off three different times and became close with a lot of people there! I’ll no longer see everyone as often as I would like but I become close with a lot of my employees. I will definitely be stopping by from time to time to see how they all are.
Of course, I don’t believe these tips are the only ways to make friends at a new duty station, but they are a good place to start.
As always, I hope this post helps the military spouse who is struggling to form friendships at her (or his) new duty station.
If you’re a military spouse, what do you think about these tips on ways to make friends at your new duty station? Have you personally used any of these tips? Do you have any other suggestions or tips I could add to my list? I would love for some feedback! Comment it below.